I’ve been updating and adding new goodies to MyFlirtStore, including pictures, video and findom. Next up I work on processing my audio to get those out to all my adoring fans, submissives and slaves.
Trample Pics x8
Findom Game- small cock humiliation
Footsie Pics x6
IM & Social Media Contacts
Tribute $50, Tribute $25, Tribute $10
Membership in the Penis Pity Club
Trample in Sexy High Heels Pics
Girdle & Stockings 7x photos
Pay my grad school tuition
7 Photos of My Feet in Flip Flops
Fierce Sexy High Heels 45sec clip
10sec Sneeze Clip
Pay for Pedicure
Toes in the Bath video clip
Flip flops trample Pics
Chastity Slave Contract
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As some of you may have heard, I finally just committed to a personal dominatrix domain name and bought it. I expect to have the beginnings of my femdom website available March 1st, which includes moving this blog to that domain. I’m not 100% sure how the move will effect your RSS feeds, but just in case you should bookmark my femdom and fetish twitter feed for announcements. And my dominatrix redbook ad expired! I had no idea these things had expiration dates, but I guess it makes sense that they do. I probably just forgot about that section in the TOS. I will be renewing that ad when I have the new femdom site available. I know I have several slave clients that for whatever reason don’t save my email or phone number and just refer back to my domme redbook ad, so hopefully they’re smart enough to search and find this femdom blog or my twitter in the meantime. When my new site debuts I will have some lovely new dominatrix pictures and expanded list of fetish and femdom services to tempt my submissive slaves.
I’m well aware that many of my clients are married, divorced or dating. I find that married and divorced guys tend to be more compliant and respectful, and I like that. I always sort of wonder what I would do if I got an angry call from a wife. I like to think that what I do is relatively innocent. I’m not trying to take a man away from his family. In fact a good sex worker has good boundaries and won’t do anything that would take the guy from his marriage. I could go on and on about how I think our society’s ideas about relationships are dysfunctional and how it’s a feminist issue that women aren’t interested in or have any understanding of fetishes. I think Mistress Penny Barber sums it up well in her article The Wife and the Dominatrix: Sex Workers for Couples.
I am personally open to the idea of couples coming in for a session or a wife being involved with her husband’s fetish life. I’ve had people inquire about bringing their wives or girlfriends, but I have very strict rules about how it works. If a woman is going to join her partner for a session I need to make sure that she is 100% comfortable with the situation and isn’t going to be terribly upset after the experience. I honestly don’t recommend this for most couples, unless the woman is curious and initializes the session. If a woman just wants to talk and learn more about fetishes, bdsm and these practices I would be more than happy to chat with her or refer her to some informational resources.
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As many of you know I had some hard times in 2010, and I spent the whole last half of November and the entire month of December being totally burned out. I know many of you follow my twitter and have seen countless complaints about chronic pain, insomnia, problems at the day job, losing my photo studio, and ongoing problems with utilities and ants in my new warehouse space. I took several vacations, but it was only on the trip to Calistoga, gift from a generous gentleman, that I was truly able to relax. I had a spa night up there with the mud bath and mineral water jacuzzi. That was the first night in several months that I was able to relax enough to fall asleep and stay asleep for an appropriate amount of time. It was the mineral water that really did it for me, and I look forward to be able to go back a little more frequently. It wasn’t very expensive so if you are looking for a gift I can let you know who in Calistoga to call to get me a spa trip.
I don’t know if I’m feeling any more balanced in this whole work/life thing. My work as a femdom is just so personal that a lot of the times I feel like I’m not working at all. It’s also difficult having to sell yourself to people, as any self-employed, small business owner or salesperson knows. It can get really deeply personal when you’re rejected or fail to make a connection. I remember it being like this in the strip club, and trying to work through the issues at that time. I think I’m in a much better place mentally now, but it still hurts sometimes and it can get exhausting.
I have some big personal goals for 2011, and I hope for you all to be a part of them! Keep following for updates and get in contact. I would love to hear from the folks in my fan club.
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My dear friend Goddess Helena will be in town and this hot dominant woman and I will be available for double sessions together November 23-24th. She is one wicked Mistress with some very hot kinky fantasies. I lust after this woman constantly and I personally can’t wait to get in the dungeon with her. She has many of the same fetishes and interests, and also has the perfect classical figure, ass and feet. I’m thinking that a certain piss-slave and a certain foot slave will be jumping to get a session with the Goddess and Myself. Oh the delicious taboos! The glorious decadent worship! Don’t pass up this opportunity because I think I need to session with her, using you as an excuse to go out and play.
Bashing the patriarchy, one scrotum at a time?
The world is uncomfortably masculine, especially when it comes to sex and spirituality. There’s a woman-shaped gap in many people’s perception of power.
At Femdom events such as Club Pedestal and Luxe, both men and women can live, albeit temporarily, in a world where the female is adored. Even in the contrived setting of a BDSM scene event, I feel it addresses the imbalances that we’ve been conditioned to ignore in our normal lives. Dommes are treated with the kind of deference and respect that men normally only reserve for one another. I feel that society would be a far fairer place if gents outside the world of fetish and fantasy I inhabit could grant their womenfolk the same level of admiration.
-Pro-Domme Ms Slide
I’ve been hearing people talk about Leather spirituality and BDSM ritual and I never really understood. I always thought it was some excuse for getting into someone’s pants, but I did encounter a few people that had an actual devotion and practice to a deity with these ecstastatic body ritual traditions. I know that Hindu traditions have a lot of this thing going on, and I’ve seen rituals for Kali and Ganesha that involved BDSM. I also know people who do a variation on the Sun Dance ritual or otherwise use piercing, flesh hooks, and suspension as part of their spiritual experience. Modern Primitives do this very well. Leather spirituality, well I’m just not clear on exactly what that means.
I have always been a spiritual person. I became a Goddess worshipper and joined a Dianic spirituality group. It really fits my feminist and female supremacy point of view. I was very excited when I learned that Goddess religion honored sexuality as sacred and didn’t want to shame me for being a slut or deny my sexuality. I’ve been working with sacred sexuality as a deeply personal and private practice in my Goddess devotion for many years. I always wondered how I might combine that practice with my sex work. When I was in Las Vegas I met a wonderful woman who runs a Goddess temple that offers ritual, spiritual services and sacred sexuality services. She helped me to understand how I can move beyond my personal practice and bring sacred sexuality to the world. I hope to visit her temple some time soon, but in the meantime I’m working on these things myself.
I was always one to keep my spirituality and religion private because I thought I was really weird and I didn’t find a lot of other people that shared my perspective and experiences. In the past few years I have found more people that I can trust and work with. I don’t work with Kali or any of the Eastern traditions so it’s not really tantra, but that’s the word people are most familiar with. I’m not going to identify myself with Leather spirituality, but my FemDomme lifestyle and spirituality come from the same source. Most of my clients aren’t particularly interested in spirituality and it’s certainly not necessary to participate in any spiritual practices in order to have a session with me, but in case anyone is interested it is an option.
If you would like to talk more about these topics, receive some instruction or have a card reading please call my new sacred sexuality hotline. 1-800-TO-FLIRT ext. 9469-882
I’ve been with my Spanish Foot Slave for something like five years. He’s done things to piss me off but he’s also been sweet and a good slave. I think I have him thoroughly addicted to my feet and my power. At our last session he put his tribute in my special money hiding spot, and I didn’t bother to get it until the next day. Imagine my surprise when I see that he shorted me $25! I sat with that for a while before I said anything to him. I know he’s good for it because he can’t afford to lose me as his Mistress. Apparently there was a “misunderstanding” and he thought he was paying for a shorter session when I thought he was paying for a full length session, and gave him a full length session. Lucky for me I took some pictures of him during the session that he’s dying to get a hold of. He doesn’t get the pictures until I get the $25. I also have a video clip that I took at a previous session that he either forgot about or didn’t realize I took. I forgot about it myself until I was going through some recent videos. That will also not be released to him until I see the rest of my money. I really hope that he pays up promptly because these are some juicy videos and pictures. It’s only $25 so I don’t know what the delay is!
I have been exceptionally busy this week. but I’ve been getting a lot done. I’ll have a new website soon!
Until then, here’s a fun picture by James Courtney.
I’m constantly hearing from people about pro-dommes who “do it for the money” and having conversations about this topic. It’s an interesting topic and far more complex than most people realize.
First of all, people generally do their jobs for the money. Most people aren’t able to make money from their beloved hobbies so they work the job where they can make the best money. I also hear people talk about sex workers being “addicted to money” and how they can’t go back to “normal” jobs because they can’t make the same amount of money. As if people in other high paying jobs aren’t also “addicted to money” and can’t go back to lower paying jobs because they can’t maintain their standard of living. It’s really the double standard that bothers me. I don’t hear you bitching about accountants who are just in it for the money and how you don’t pay to have your taxes done by a professional.
You get all types, especially in the adult entertainment industry. There are people that just take these jobs on the side for extra money, sometimes because they really love the work and sometimes because they just need the money. You also find people that are truly running a full time business for the same wide range of reasons, some really love the work and some just happen to have found something that they can do well and make a good living off. It’s not my place to judge why anyone does anything, and their relationship to money. As a feminist I believe that a woman has a right to make a living any way she damn well pleases, and it is sexist to hold financially independent women to a different standard. If you don’t think that your pro-domme, porn star or other adult service provider is doing their work for the “right” reason, then find yourself a different domme.
It is true that there are women working as pro-dommes who aren’t involved in the the scene or have much personal interest in BDSM. I see it happening all the time. A woman is working in a different area of the adult industry and finds that a lot of her clients ask for domination or fetishes they aren’t familiar with. I see women going to sex worker message boards saying that guys keep asking them for domination and they’ve never done this before. They start learning and practicing BDSM because they have clients that want it. They’re smart business women so they go where the money is, hone their skills and grow their business. Maybe this is their first opportunity to explore a side of themselves that they never realized existed. Maybe they discover that they love BDSM. Maybe they have a fetish for money and financial domination. Maybe they don’t. Business is business and if they aren’t successful they won’t last long in the industry. Again, it’s not my place to judge anyone’s motivation.
Where do I fit in this? All of the above. I started stripping because I needed money fast and loved dancing and performing. I went into modeling because I needed money and liked performing. I started filming and running porn sites because I was good at it, the money was good, and I loved the creative outlet. I started as a pro-domme because I love BDSM and I discovered that I could make money doing it. Now I’m doing webcam and phone domination because it’s a good business move for me. Yes, I am in it for the money. No, I have not stopped playing and indulging my fetishes in my private life. Like I’ve said before, I love BDSM so much that I’ve made the ultimate lifestyle commitment and have made it my career.
