I’ve been updating and adding new goodies to MyFlirtStore, including pictures, video and findom. Next up I work on processing my audio to get those out to all my adoring fans, submissives and slaves.
Trample Pics x8
Findom Game- small cock humiliation
Footsie Pics x6
IM & Social Media Contacts
Tribute $50, Tribute $25, Tribute $10
Membership in the Penis Pity Club
Trample in Sexy High Heels Pics
Girdle & Stockings 7x photos
Pay my grad school tuition
7 Photos of My Feet in Flip Flops
Fierce Sexy High Heels 45sec clip
10sec Sneeze Clip
Pay for Pedicure
Toes in the Bath video clip
Flip flops trample Pics
Chastity Slave Contract
I haven’t had allergies since I moved to California, and now here I am sneezing, sniffling and blowing my nose. I haven’t found any allergy medicine that works for me yet, so I’m taking herbs instead. If sneezing and sniffling happens to be your fetish I am available for phone and cam sessions. Book a skype sneeze cam session with me
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As some of you may have heard, I finally just committed to a personal dominatrix domain name and bought it. I expect to have the beginnings of my femdom website available March 1st, which includes moving this blog to that domain. I’m not 100% sure how the move will effect your RSS feeds, but just in case you should bookmark my femdom and fetish twitter feed for announcements. And my dominatrix redbook ad expired! I had no idea these things had expiration dates, but I guess it makes sense that they do. I probably just forgot about that section in the TOS. I will be renewing that ad when I have the new femdom site available. I know I have several slave clients that for whatever reason don’t save my email or phone number and just refer back to my domme redbook ad, so hopefully they’re smart enough to search and find this femdom blog or my twitter in the meantime. When my new site debuts I will have some lovely new dominatrix pictures and expanded list of fetish and femdom services to tempt my submissive slaves.
I’m well aware that many of my clients are married, divorced or dating. I find that married and divorced guys tend to be more compliant and respectful, and I like that. I always sort of wonder what I would do if I got an angry call from a wife. I like to think that what I do is relatively innocent. I’m not trying to take a man away from his family. In fact a good sex worker has good boundaries and won’t do anything that would take the guy from his marriage. I could go on and on about how I think our society’s ideas about relationships are dysfunctional and how it’s a feminist issue that women aren’t interested in or have any understanding of fetishes. I think Mistress Penny Barber sums it up well in her article The Wife and the Dominatrix: Sex Workers for Couples.
I am personally open to the idea of couples coming in for a session or a wife being involved with her husband’s fetish life. I’ve had people inquire about bringing their wives or girlfriends, but I have very strict rules about how it works. If a woman is going to join her partner for a session I need to make sure that she is 100% comfortable with the situation and isn’t going to be terribly upset after the experience. I honestly don’t recommend this for most couples, unless the woman is curious and initializes the session. If a woman just wants to talk and learn more about fetishes, bdsm and these practices I would be more than happy to chat with her or refer her to some informational resources.
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As many of you know I had some hard times in 2010, and I spent the whole last half of November and the entire month of December being totally burned out. I know many of you follow my twitter and have seen countless complaints about chronic pain, insomnia, problems at the day job, losing my photo studio, and ongoing problems with utilities and ants in my new warehouse space. I took several vacations, but it was only on the trip to Calistoga, gift from a generous gentleman, that I was truly able to relax. I had a spa night up there with the mud bath and mineral water jacuzzi. That was the first night in several months that I was able to relax enough to fall asleep and stay asleep for an appropriate amount of time. It was the mineral water that really did it for me, and I look forward to be able to go back a little more frequently. It wasn’t very expensive so if you are looking for a gift I can let you know who in Calistoga to call to get me a spa trip.
I don’t know if I’m feeling any more balanced in this whole work/life thing. My work as a femdom is just so personal that a lot of the times I feel like I’m not working at all. It’s also difficult having to sell yourself to people, as any self-employed, small business owner or salesperson knows. It can get really deeply personal when you’re rejected or fail to make a connection. I remember it being like this in the strip club, and trying to work through the issues at that time. I think I’m in a much better place mentally now, but it still hurts sometimes and it can get exhausting.
I have some big personal goals for 2011, and I hope for you all to be a part of them! Keep following for updates and get in contact. I would love to hear from the folks in my fan club.
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I do entertain clients who are interested in indulging fetishes that don’t involve power exchange. If that’s what you’re interested in please let me know up front so I don’t go full on Femdom on you.
If you really honestly truly from the bottom of your heart want to be a submissive to me then you need to stop thinking that Femdom works like it does on particular porn sites. you DO NOT get a blow job at the end. You probably won’t get to touch yourself either. If you just want to get off then don’t approach me asking to serve, because I have no use for your jiz. I will happily ruin your orgasm and put you in chastity.
Mistress Saraya is my newest internet crush and she wrote a wonderful blog on this exact topic.
For you see boys, serving means doing something to make My life a bit better. Wanking to My image, be it on cam, in clips, or from one of My smoking hot photos, is NOT ”serving” Me. Instead, it’s a selfish act on your part OR a reward saved for those that have done a good job jumping through hoops and doing everything in their power to make Me happy. You know, SERVING ME.
*I* get no pleasure from you jerking that lump of flesh between your legs.
*I* get no satisfaction from it.
“Wanking” is a completely selfish act which focuses on nothing but your own gratification. In fact, the ONLY time that I even care one iota about your dick is when I’m getting you all worked up so that I can get whatever *I* want out of you or forcing you to inflict pain upon it for My amusement. Beyond that, I couldn’t care less. The only one that cares about it, really, is you.
From Her blog Digital Narcissim
I’m constantly hearing from people about pro-dommes who “do it for the money” and having conversations about this topic. It’s an interesting topic and far more complex than most people realize.
First of all, people generally do their jobs for the money. Most people aren’t able to make money from their beloved hobbies so they work the job where they can make the best money. I also hear people talk about sex workers being “addicted to money” and how they can’t go back to “normal” jobs because they can’t make the same amount of money. As if people in other high paying jobs aren’t also “addicted to money” and can’t go back to lower paying jobs because they can’t maintain their standard of living. It’s really the double standard that bothers me. I don’t hear you bitching about accountants who are just in it for the money and how you don’t pay to have your taxes done by a professional.
You get all types, especially in the adult entertainment industry. There are people that just take these jobs on the side for extra money, sometimes because they really love the work and sometimes because they just need the money. You also find people that are truly running a full time business for the same wide range of reasons, some really love the work and some just happen to have found something that they can do well and make a good living off. It’s not my place to judge why anyone does anything, and their relationship to money. As a feminist I believe that a woman has a right to make a living any way she damn well pleases, and it is sexist to hold financially independent women to a different standard. If you don’t think that your pro-domme, porn star or other adult service provider is doing their work for the “right” reason, then find yourself a different domme.
It is true that there are women working as pro-dommes who aren’t involved in the the scene or have much personal interest in BDSM. I see it happening all the time. A woman is working in a different area of the adult industry and finds that a lot of her clients ask for domination or fetishes they aren’t familiar with. I see women going to sex worker message boards saying that guys keep asking them for domination and they’ve never done this before. They start learning and practicing BDSM because they have clients that want it. They’re smart business women so they go where the money is, hone their skills and grow their business. Maybe this is their first opportunity to explore a side of themselves that they never realized existed. Maybe they discover that they love BDSM. Maybe they have a fetish for money and financial domination. Maybe they don’t. Business is business and if they aren’t successful they won’t last long in the industry. Again, it’s not my place to judge anyone’s motivation.
Where do I fit in this? All of the above. I started stripping because I needed money fast and loved dancing and performing. I went into modeling because I needed money and liked performing. I started filming and running porn sites because I was good at it, the money was good, and I loved the creative outlet. I started as a pro-domme because I love BDSM and I discovered that I could make money doing it. Now I’m doing webcam and phone domination because it’s a good business move for me. Yes, I am in it for the money. No, I have not stopped playing and indulging my fetishes in my private life. Like I’ve said before, I love BDSM so much that I’ve made the ultimate lifestyle commitment and have made it my career.
Today on NPR’s Fresh Air program, they interview a former dominatrix who wrote a book called Whip Smart. It was an interesting program! Unfortunately Terry Gross’ questions tended to be of the “why are people so weird” or “what’s a smart girl like you doing in this industry” variety, but the author, Melissa Febos, didn’t make us all look bad. She was really articulate about her experiences. And let me emphasize “her experiences” because they are her experiences alone. She had a lot of interesting and insightful things to say about working as a pro-domme, but ultimately she didn’t like the job and so she quit. She also started working so that she could pay for her heroin addiction. There are plenty of people in this world who hate their jobs and have drug addictions and it’s important to remember that the vast majority of the adult industry doesn’t fall into either of those categories. Her experience is somewhat unique in that way. It’s disappointing that all you ever seem to hear about the adult industry comes from folks who hated it or were junkies.
I think it’s wonderful that NPR didn’t shy away from doing a program on such a taboo subject and that Febos spoke very positively about the variety of fetishes and human erotic experiences. We still have a long way to go.
Apparently word got out that I do brown showers. I was well reviewed on redbook HEREby one of my brown shower clients, and now everyone wants brown showers. I wasn’t advertising brown showers because they’re a lot of work. I need three days to prepare my body and get the timing right. I am only able to do brown showers in the mornings, because that’s just how my body works. Scheduling a brown session takes more work and patience on the part of clients. You try shitting on call.
I do enjoy brown showers. I like the more extreme and interesting fetishes. I’m still perfectly happy to do the foot fetish and body worship and tease and things like that, but I get REALLY excited about unique and unusual fantasies.
